Great Places to Meet the Opposite Sex
1. THE LOCAL DOG PARK
Ever notice how young, and more importantly, single most people
are at the dog park? Do you see how sexy Judy always conveniently
wears her summer dresses despite her woodchip and dog-infested surroundings?
Or how muscular Matt maintains his wife-beater status despite the
drop in temperature? It's true; dog parks are crawling with as many
eager singles as they are with pups. Not only is the dog park a great
place for your doggie to get some exercise, it's also a prime opportunity
for you to develop your social skills (a.k.a. flirting techniques).
While at the park look for someone who seems approachable, you'll
be amazed at how social people are at the dog park.
Once you've struck
a conversation about how adorable each other's canines are, try to
shift the conversation to more personal topics. Like, single or taken? Again, singles will be very eager to share common knowledge with
someone whom they might be interested in. If you get that far, chances
are a possible date or perhaps a friendship is in the forecast.
2. THE BEACH
Actually, any waterfront location will do. The truth is, this precious location has been the center of social gatherings for centuries; starting
with the primitive water hole. People naturally flock towards water,
(namely the coastal beaches, rivers, lakes, etc.) during the hot summer
months. In the winter time the festivities might slow a bit, but that's
why timing is everything. If you've worked hard all year on getting
back that "beach body" then there's no better time than
now to show it off. It's human nature to "people watch",
and when you're looking good others will take notice. What's more,
the beach is regularly packed with people looking to have some fun
in the sun, sometimes tallying thousands upon thousands of vacationers
and natives during the holiday weekends. So, if you're a beach native
be prepared to show a prospect around your quaint little beach town.
If you're the vacationer, fear not, there are plenty of single natives
ready and willing to be your tour guide. Just remember sunscreen!
It's always important to find someone with whom you have common interests.
What better way to start things off than by snagging someone who happens
to love the same literature or music that you do? Bookstores are great
places for you to shop leisurely for that perfect book or that
new CD that you were considering purchasing. Those extra benches and
headphone displays aren't there by accident; the store doesn't want
you to feel pressured into buying something. They would rather you
take your time, and mingle. So do just that. Pay attention to prospects
shopping in the same sections you're akin to. Chances are you have
a favorite author or book in common. What easier conversation starter
could you ask for?
4. ONLINE CHAT ROOMS AND DATING SERVICES
If you're too shy to throw yourself out into the wacky world of
dating, or just too timid to make the first move, then cyberspace
might be the place for you. With so many chat rooms available these
days its the perfect place for the lonely single to socialize in the
privacy and security of their own home. Just be sure to take extra
precautions when dealing with information; it is most often viewable
by all members of the chat room, unless you have moved to a private
screen. Moreover, whether you are a first time user, or if it is your
first encounter with someone new, always be careful! It's better
to be safe than sorry. Chances are if they're interested, they will
be willing to wait for the more intimate, personal details later.
If chat rooms don't sound appealing, there are always online dating
services. Organizations like 'eHarmony.com' provide free profiles where,
after you download a photo and provide personal information, the company
will match you with a series of "potential candidates." Most often there is a technique to their matching process and your
potentials are usually evaluated on a multiple level of diagnostics.
In fact, since the beginning of the new millennium, thousands of people have
turned to online dating services to help them find a partner, simply
because their hectic schedule doesn't allow them time to mingle. Moreover,
most of these services have confidentiality agreements, so at least there that heightened level of security.
5. THE GYM
If you're a gym buff and love breaking a sweat, head to the nearest
gym where you can flex your muscles and your flirting power. There
are always tons of singles present at the gym (ever notice how
couples tend to let themselves go over time?). And they are working hard to look
their best for the next Mr./Mrs. Right. At the very least,
it's an opportunity to improve your health while still scoping out the prospects.
TIP: If you're a female who's caught the eye of an attractive male,
ask him to spot you, even if you know what you're doing; play dumb.
This is a great conversation starter and promises immediate body contact. Not
to mention it's a huge ego boost for the male. Likewise, if you're
a male who's just staked out the cutie across the room, ask her if
she would like any assistance. If she's interested, chances are you'll
get a positive response, whether she needs the help or not.
6. THE MALL
Normally seen as the social hangout for teenagers, malls now play
host to multiple big-name department stores; i.e. stores that unemployed
teenagers can't afford to shop in, thus attracting an entirely different
crowd. While the mall will still be packed with hormone-driven youngsters,
you can also find a slew of businesswomen and men spending their lunch
break at the food court, or possibly shopping for a few last minute necessities
in their favorite department store. Now, more than ever, malls are
packed with people looking for a new date and the perfect outfit for
such an occasion. So if you think you can withstand the occasional
screaming child or air-headed teen, head to the mall and check out
your luck with the older crowd.
7. MOM AND POP SHOPS
Be it a grocery store, a flower shop, a bakery, or a confectionary,
these smaller local shops have been the gathering place for many
singles with the disposition to appreciate
the mom-and-pop atmosphere. Whereas the big chains are usually host
to married couples, many singles like to quickly slip in and out of
their local grocer after purchasing their needed goods and giving
a quick hello to familiar faces. Slow them down by starting a conversation.
Chances are they will be more than willing to converse; it's usually
a subconscious motive for most of their visits anyways. These people
are looking for recognition and distinction from the supermarket masses,
your conversation being the perfect solution to such intentions.
8. CHILDREN'S SPORTING EVENTS
For those of you who are single moms or dads, this is the ideal place
to pick up on the equally vulnerable member of the opposite sex. Many single parents
place their kids in social functions, to
provide their kids with ample social opportunities. But there's a
couple of advantages for the single parent; not only will there be
a lot of you congregating in the same vicinity, you now have the down-time
away from the constant baby-sitting to go and mingle. Like the dog
park, your kid(s) get(s) to have fun, and you get to take your eye
off of them long enough to stare in the direction of a potential date.
Better yet, chances are that person has a kid, too, so there's no
need to feel awkward about your single parent status.
9. THE LIBRARY
Think you're the only person still in school, or nerdy enough to
enjoy leisure reading? Think again. There are thousands of people
like you, and en equally good percentage that are still single. In
fact, most singletons have the time to read the occasional Jane Austen
novel or explore the cooking section for the latest book of up-to-date
recipes, spending lengthy periods of time in the library. Whereas,
the coupled person is more likely to rush in and out of the library
grabbing only what they need in their allotted fifteen minute visit,
the singles will be much more likely to hang out; yup, just like in
the book store. So keep an eye out for the slackers who seem to be
enjoying themselves in the comfy sofa next to the window, or in aisle
5 where, gasp, they've picked up one of you're favorites !
Yes, the bar. The dreaded drunken, rowdy, all too college-esque social
scene of the bar is, well, perfect! Most people won't go to the bars
alone, make that most women, but chances are if they're single they've
come in with a member of the same sex. That's right, the group of
girls sitting in the back booth, or the gang of buddies occupying
the bar stools up front are more often than not- single friends on
a mission. Sure there's likely to be a wingman/woman or two, but there's
also bound to be an available singleton waiting to be snagged. So
girls, strap on your best shoes and guys, grab that lucky baseball
cap, and head out to the local bar that is "all the buzz"
where you can buy your prospective hottie a drink. It's a great conversation
starter, shows independence, and proves that you're intentions, for
the time being, aren't about their money.
LAST MINUTE TIP
It all goes back to common interests and traffic flow. The best places
to meet members of the opposite sex and flirt are those that include
an ample amount of people with common interest; more than likely it
will be a social place tailored to the personalities present. So if
you see yourself fitting in at a local club, organization, restaurant,
bar, etc, start showing your face regularly and see what happens.