Emily from Cincinnati, Ohio knows that the best way to flirt at a party is to get into the flow of things when you get there. Have a drink or two to unwind and settle down like you are totally comfortable and want to be approached.

"A lot of times when you first get to a party, you're a little tight and nervous," she told Flirting.com.  "Have a drink and relax.  Open up and take up a good position on a couch, or something.  This says you want to relax.  But, don't overdo the drinks."

Emily is a party flirting expert.  When at parties, don't overindulge.  You leave yourself too vulnerable and you may come across as a lush.  A good tip is to alternate alcoholic drinks with glasses of water.  This will slow you down, but keep your flirting fast and lose.

Brad (black shirt) loves to attend dinner parties and finds they are great opportunities for flirting.  His technique is called the photo flirt.  He explains: "Somebody usually has a camera at a dinner party and wants to get everybody together for a snapshot," he said, coyly.  "I usually buddy up with a cute number and make some light flirting contact like putting my hand on her shoulder or something like that."

Great technique, Brad.  You don't have to be a professional photographer to take advantage of this tip. Just focus on who you want to be next to when the camera guy is ready to click away. You can not only introduce contact but then when the pictures are posted the other party will be reminded of how much fun the party was, and of you!

Here we see a human pyramid being formed at a wild college party at the University of Connecticut.  There is a certain collective flirting that goes on anytime you have a large group of people participating in games.

"Hey, nothing shows a bad flirt like being a wet blanket and not participating," said Stan, an undergrad who organized the building of the above pyramid.

We agree.  Get involved at the party and don't stand on the sidelines.  There's never any good action on the sidelines, take our word for it.  In a mass like this it would be easy to fall or bump into your crush who just happens to be standing closely next to you in all of the chaos. It also gives you chatting topics for weeks.

Accessories are essential, says Jasmine from Minneapolis, MN.  She pays careful attention to what she wears to parties because she knows it will attract attention, if she does it right.

"You have to stand out," she said.  "You can help yourself do so by wearing the right things for the right party."

There's a time and place for everything. Dressing for the occasion or social setting is very important. Just do some research and know where you are heading. Think of of each outfit as a costume to play the character of you in different groups of people. You can initiate acceptance and then feel comfortable letting the real you shine.

Patricia from Jacksonville, Florida, knows that great flirting is a matter of preparation and attention to detail.

"It's not just the dress you wear, but how you wear it," she told Flirting.com. "How you walk, even how you hold and sip a drink tells a man a lot."

Patricia is not patronizing when it comes to flirting at parties.  Be like her and don't walk a drink over, saunter over invitingly and you will hold the attention of the target.

Mira from Olympia, Washington, recommends drawing as much attention to yourself as possible at a party. Karaoke parties, for example, are always a good time. Mira says displaying a talent is always a good starting point.

"If we're at a party at a bar or pub and they have a microphone," she said.  "Guys may not notice me but once thay hear me sing they see how hot I am."

Mira's approach is bold and we love it. The only caveat is if your talent is a stupid one, like juggling. Kids might like you...but the regular pub goer probably won't. Save the juggling for the 5th date when things start getting boring and you go to the apple orchard. Spontaneous, lame, talents can be fun in the right setting.